Thinking About Having a Bachelorette Party? Read This First.
Who says you absolutely need bottle service in a limo on the way to “da club” or cutesy custom matching outfits? Sure, it might be nice, but this simple list of do’s and don’ts gets rid of all of the extras and strips it back to basics. You know, stuff like expectations, communication, respect, planning… the essentials, really! Enjoy:
FOR THE BRIDE:
DO be crystal clear about your expectations and comfort level (low-key, no stripper, etc.) DON’T leave it all up to your ladies and then be a total party pooper
DO be respectful of your soon-to-be’s comfort level, too DON’T expect them to be totally down for another man’s junk in your face
DO offer to pitch in if you want a weekend getaway to Jamaica DON’T be inconsiderate about your gals’ wallets as they may start to resent you
DO allow your bridesmaids creative freedom once you’ve discussed expectations DON’T try to take over planning and micromanage everything
DO give your bridesmaids your preferred guest list + contact details DON’T assume your bridesmaids know who you want to invite
DO have an intimate event with your closest of girlfriends DON’T invite every girl on your wedding guest list
DO a courtesy check-in with your love on the night to calm his nerves DON’T be glued to your phone with your boo and totally ignore your girlfriends
DO bring a small (or big) token of appreciation DON’T show up empty handed or you may be perceived as ungrateful
DO relax, unwind and let loose DON’T do anything to disrespect your partner
FOR THE MAID OF HONOR/BRIDESMAIDS:
DO respect the bride’s wishes (no stripper means no stripper!) DON’T make her feel miserable/uncomfortable just because you want a fiyah fireman
DO plan ahead and save with early bird airfares/deals + give everyone ample time DON’T wait until the last minute to send out save the dates and invitations
DO be communicative and completely upfront DON’T be ambiguous about costs, activities, attire etc.
DO create and adhere to a planning timeline DON’T rely purely on your memory as it can (and most likely will) fail you
DO plan fun party games, especially if she wants to keep it low-key DON’T just wing it or plan to just party – hello, you can do that any night
DO get snap happy (yay for memories!) DON’T post on social media without her consent
DO (try) to separate the bachelorette from the wedding weekend DON’T have a Hangover moment
